Missing out

Fear of missing out is horrible by product of social media; I go about my daily life of work and chores and hopefully getting to the gym that one day of the week, then come home exhausted and flip through my instagram feed where I see everyone else is having far more fun than I. Vacations to ordinary and exotic places, date nights, concerts, even shoes that feel more exciting than my own.

Worse than the fear of missing out is actually missing out. Every Wednesday night a New Haven pizza restaurant called BAR has free live music. Last week an artist I really like was playing. The venue is no more than 15 minutes from me. The show was free, the only caveat being that it started at 9:30 p.m., which translates to 11:30 p.m. by the time the headlining act goes on, and it's a Wednesday night, with a Thursday morning 7:00 a.m. alarm to greet me. As I drove home from the gym my mind wandered to the idea of actually going, but even as my internal debate carried on, I already knew I would find myself turning into my driveway, fast asleep by 11 p.m.

Where is my sense of adventure, my spontaneity, my ability to deviate from my daily routine? I am missing out because I can't step outside my comfort zone and seek just a little bit more from life. I am tired of missing out.

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The Rundown
Green Blouse Banana Republic thrifted similar
Black Cardigan Gap thrifted similar
Distressed Jeans Old Navy similar
Booties "Calixta" Cole Haan
Leopard Fold Over Clutch Gap similar
Choker Necklace Avon
Pavé Disc Pendant Avon
Watch c/o Caravelle by Bulova via Lucky Fabb
Cuff Gorjana via Rocksbox (one month free with lydiaxoxo)
Crystal Bar Ring Upper Metal Class
Ring Gorjana via Rocksbox (one month free with lydiaxoxo)
Sunglasses "Cat Eye Combination" Cole Haan via TJMaxx


  1. I'm the same way, haha. Always jealous of other people but never willing to actually do things myself, haha! "It's too late" "It's too far away" bla bla bla :p

  2. Super cute casual chic look! I feel you Lydia I hate having that fear of missing out feeling. I say select a couple of times a month where you just go with the flow as long as it's not a weekly or daily thing you'll be just fine. Your young and vibrant. I'd be one and done! Ha

  3. I think this is one of the curses of adulthood. What you see in instagram isn't real, so try not to let that make you feel too guilty about what you don't get to do in your daily life. But at the same time, we are so bombarded by messages about people leaving ti all behind to travel the world and carving their own path, it's hard not to feel like having a regular job that pays the bills, going to the gym when we can make it and just spending time with the people we love somehow isn't enough. One of the things I've learned, though, and admittedly taking a year out of the adult life I just described helped with that, is that if I don't take time to decompress every day, I don't enjoy the things I do find time to do. Better to do few things that really make us happy than have a glamourous-looking, go go go life that doesn't bring us any more happiness, I think. But that might just be what I have to tell myself to get through life ;)

  4. I would have missed out on a concert that late too because I'm not a night person at all. It's so crazy to me that they would start a concert that late on a weeknight.


  5. Cee makes a good point. Being an adult is all about making adult decisions. Now getting boring and not being yourself, that's a problem. The main drive is that you wanted to go, but you knew you had to be up the next morning. You haven't forgotten who you are, you're just making smart decisions. Had it been on a Friday, I'm sure you would've definitely gone. Just don't loose sight of carving out time for yourself. In other news, that jewel toned green is so perfect on you. It's gorgeous!

  6. I have that feeling all the time and so I've been really "forcing" myself lately to do things that normally I wouldn't because they seem inconvenient, etc. Just last week I made myself buy tickets to see some bands that didn't start until 10 pm and no one I knew was going - and I was exhausted the next day but I actually ran into some acquaintances there and forged some relationships and had a great time....so I'm glad I took the plunge!

    Courtney ~ Sartorial Sidelines

  7. I am in the same boat as you. My life is very mundane, it's work, go to the gym or take my son to some sport activity. No fun social life for me either. I am way to exhausted n the week day to do anything since I need to up by 530.


    Hope to see your Thursday for TBT Fashion link up.

  8. FOMO is the worst, but a person can't do it all. Loving your clutch :)

  9. Love those booties. Not to worry your day will come and FUN will be the order of the day. Just Enjoy Your Life no matter how tired you get. . . .

  10. lol, love the topic! Don't fret, I too miss out, ALL THE TIME! I actually turn down events just because I rather be home tucked under the sheets snuggling with my little one... Love the casual look! -R

  11. I know exactly where you are coming from. It doesn't matter what it is, I will choose sleep and time at home over almost anything. I have noticed I am so much more of an introvert now than I was in high school and college. I think you become used to routines and it's hard to deviate!

  12. Damn. This post could not come in a better moment. I am feeling like that too. I am missing out.
    All I have to do is make that extra terrifying effort...